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Life with Twins | Meet Nicole and the Haviland Twins

“Are they twins”, “Double trouble”, “Are they identical”, and my personal favorite “better you than me”. If you’ve guessed by now the answer is, yes I have twins. Women have been birthing twins since the beginning of time, yet every time I wander into Target the kids and I turn into superstars. We’ve heard every comment imaginable, but the above are the most common. What is it about twins that just makes people go nutty? 
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I’m here to share with you the journey we’ve been on over the past year with our twins Vivian and Kipling who just turned one. Life is a crazy adventure with these two, but we couldn’t picture it any other way. 
 

Let me start off by saying life with twins is unexplainable;

The fact that my body created two lives at the same time. At one point I had three hearts inside me, (including my own) and that alone just blows my mind. Twin pregnancy comes with a lot more risks than singleton (what us Twin Mamas refer to Mamas who carry and birth one baby at a time). 

Then after pregnancy comes the high risk of premature birth leading to Neonatal Intensive Care Unit stays.

My twins were born eight weeks early; my daughter spent five weeks in the NICU, and my son spent nine weeks in. Having babies (or a baby) in the NICU is nothing you can ever prepare yourself for. Leaving the hospital without my babies was without a doubt the hardest thing I’ve ever had to go through in my life. It was dreadful waking up each day at home to their empty nursery, and then spending all day at the hospital trying to hold your babies while they have all these wires attached to them, and alarms beeping. If it wasn’t for my husband and my own Mama I don’t think I would have ever made it through those long nine weeks. But after the NICU stay is over, you get to take your little bundles of joy home and then the fun really begins.  

In the beginning I think the most important piece of advice we took from other twin parents was to get the kids on the same schedule.

That meant in the middle of the night if Viv woke up to eat, well then we were waking Kip up to eat too. My husband and I worked out a pretty good system where I would do the middle of the night shifts, and he would do the early morning shifts. But to this day the kids still eat at the same time. If you don’t keep twins on the same schedule you are going to kill yourself waking up every other hour. 
 
Eventually we talked to our pediatrician about their night time feedings and she said it was safe to wean them off. So with her approval and support we sleep trained the kids. (They were around six months old). It was an agonizing three day weekend of using the “cry it out” method, but after the third night they slept the whole night. To this day we put them to bed at 7pm and they wake up at 7am. If they wake up in the night they are able to self soothe themselves back to sleep. If they wake up earlier than 7 they usually just play in their cribs and yell to each other across the room. I completely understand that the CIO method is not for everyone, but we felt like it was the best option for us, and it worked. Everyone in the house gets enough sleep, and it allows my husband and I to have some time to spend together every night after the kids go down. 

Find your tribe; 

I think another thing that has really helped our twins thrive is the fact that we have a small army of support around our little family. My parents and my husbands parents have been instrumental in helping with the twins; anything we need they are always right there to help. My brother lives with us and is always lending a helping hand. (And let me tell you when you have two infants in the house, an extra pair of adult hands goes a long way). Our friends have provided us with advice, love, and shoulders to lean on when things didn’t go as planned. Without all the support from everyone in our lives I don’t think we would of made it. 

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Everyday with these two is an adventure because they get to experience life together. They always have a best friend right beside them. When they were a couple weeks old their favorite thing in the world to do was stare at each other and hold hands. Now that they’re getting older they love playing together, and wrestling. 
 
Sure loading two kids into a car by myself just to run to Target is tiring. Being questioned by strangers about personal details of your life, and annoying questions about twins gets old real quick. Packing for trips for two infants is also another pain in the butt. Then there are the times when they are both having meltdowns at the same time, and you have to choose who to comfort first. It’s also tough to try and not compare them developmentally; because although they are twins, they are still individuals. Having twins comes with unique challenges that families with one child, or children of different ages don’t face. But you know what? Having twins also comes with a unique set of rewards and gratification. We have double the kisses, and double the hugs. We have the joy of watching them interact and grow up right along side each other. We have the pleasure of experiencing every little milestone that children hit not once but twice. And most importantly we have learned to love more than we have ever thought was possible. 
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Life with twins is hard, its tough, it tests you, but it also makes you grow, builds you into a stronger person, and lets you open your heart to double the love
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You can follow Nicole and the lovable, stylish, and quickly growing Haviland twins on Instagram at @havilands_wifey.
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We’re honored to have been able to share Nicole’s story and we’re excited for all of the newness that’s to come on Beauty in the East! Be on the lookout for a new look, new bloggers, and most importantly – fresh new content!
We love meeting powerful women and hearing the different journey that comes with everyone’s unique experience through life and motherhood. If you’d like to share your story – email Krystal and Leigha at LYLASvlog@gmail.com to be featured as a guest blogger.
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We’re Still Here

Hello Lovely’s,

As you may have noticed, the girls of Beauty in the East have not been as active in the last few weeks as they normally are. Rest assured, that although you have not heard from them recently, they are still hard at work behind the scenes! Beauty in the East has some exciting projects and changes that are set to launch in the coming month! On top of working on these secret projects, the girls have had a busy couple of weeks dealing with… well, life!

As you know, Leigha and her family are enjoying and adjusting to life with their new baby boy, Lorenzo. He just turned three months old, so as you can imagine, Leigha is very much sleep deprived, but WELL caffeinated.

Krystal and her family have been adapting to life with a traveling hubby/daddy. Her husband, Nick, recently accepted a spectacular position, and while he is loving it so far, it does require quite a bit of traveling. Thus, Krystal is holding down their nest, and two baby birdies, all on her own!

They are very excited for the additions and changes they have been working on, and can’t wait to share them with you. As always, they thank you for your unwavering support and patience.

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Top 3 Meal Delivery Services Review

Meal Delivery Services are popping up everywhere! With so many to choose from, how do you decide which one is best for you and your family?

I was able to try three of the most popular services and reviewed them for you in the video below! Although they have several similarities, it really came down to the smaller details for who wins the number one spot!

I hope you enjoy my review and it helps you in deciding which service to try!

Also, use this coupon to receive $30 off your first box with Home Chef!

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Going green – Why I’m Switching to Natural Beauty Products

I’ve been slowly switching out a lot of products in our household to a natural, cruelty free, organic option – from cleaners, to meals, and most recently, my beauty products. Why?

Like all parents, my husband and I put our kids first. So when our daughter started eating ‘real’ food, we made sure everything she consumed was the absolute best option – organic, natural, cruelty-free, etc. Well, our first baby is now 2 years old and gone are the days where she eats/does what we tell her to and instead, wants to eat/do everything we do. Which made us think – why don’t we treat ourselves as well as we treat our kids? Why aren’t we as conscious about what we put in and on our bodies as we are about what we give them? We need to be just as healthy and well functioning as our kids and we obviously need to show them a healthy lifestyle because simply telling them is no longer working.

We knew that switching to a natural diet would be a little tough in the beginning but I really underestimated how tough it would be to find natural and organic beauty, hair, and skin products to replace my all-time favorites. I haven’t been able to replace everything and I’m still in the middle of trying a bunch, but so far, I’ve found a handful that I really LOVE. Here’s a few of my old go-to’s and their new natural replacement:

1. Moisturizing + Illuminizing Primer

OLD: MAC Cosmetics Strobe Cream $33

New + Natural:

Tata Harper Illuminizing Moisturizer $85

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Benefits:

  • Instantly illuminates subtle contours with light for skin that has the plump, glowing look of youth.
  • Provides hydration and moisture barrier protection.
  • Helps reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles.

Seriously, magic in a bottle. I haven’t tried a Tata Harper product that I didn’t absolutely love.


2. Setting Powder

OLD: Laura Mercier Translucent Setting Powder $38

NEW + NATURAL:

ILIA Soft Focus Finishing Powder $34.00

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Benefits: 

  • Blend of organic powder and oils, aloe leaf extract for soothing, and infused with passion fruit and rosemary oils to treat inflammation
  • Translucent
  • Oil control, reduces shine
  • 100% natural, vegan, cruelty-free, gluten-free, talc free

Even if you’re not in the market for natural/vegan/cruelty-free makeup, this one is worth a try! It’s so hard to find good setting powder that gives you the perfect soft focus look and doesn’t look cakey, but Ilia has nailed it.


3. MASCARA

OLD: TOO FACED Better Than Sex Mascara $23

I loved this mascara for SO long. This was just about the only mascara I could pile on without false eyelashes and still get a ton of compliments.

NEW + NATURAL:

PHYSICIAN’S FORMULA Organic wear® 100% Natural Origin Mascara in Ultra Black $9.95

 

Benefits:

  • 100% Natural Origin formula contains the purest ingredients
  • 100% Recyclable Eco-Brush,100% Free of Harsh Chemicals, Synthetic Preservatives, Parabens, Clumping, Smudging, Flaking, Fibers & Dyes
  • 70% of the Total Ingredients are from Organic Farming

4. Highlighter

OLD: Anastasia Beverly Hills Glow Kit $40

NEW + NATURAL:

Orglamix Cream Luminizer in Inspirit $18

Benefits:

  • Handcrafted, cruelty free, nut-free, vegan, and gluten-free
  • Available in 3 beautiful colors for all skin types

This highlighter is creamy, natural, and gorgeous! It’s gives off a subtle dewy highlight perfect for anyone looking to achieve the signature J.Lo glow.


5. Setting Spray

Old: Urban Decay All-Nighter $32.00

New + Natural:

Mario Badescu Facial Spray with Aloe, Herb, and Rosewater $12.00

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Benefits:

  • Sets makeup and soothes skin
  • Hydrating
  • Lightweight

This one isn’t as natural and organic as I’d like but it’s definitely a lot more gentle with much more skin benefits than my previous setting spray. Plus, the rose scent is addicting.

 

I’m still searching for a more natural replacement for my MAC face and body foundation. But, I’m super excited to get my shipment of natural makeup from Sephora and 100% Pure. I’ll be sure to share my favorites! Keep an eye out for my new alternative natural hair care products and how I still manage to stretch out my time between washes to 4-5 days with my new natural/organic products!

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Fiance does my Makeup Challenge | LYLAS Video

Seeing how my Fiancé swears he’s good at everything, I expected him to do pretty well on this makeup challenge. I was terribly mistaken. Watch him pretend to know what he’s doing, while also making me look like a clown!

 

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