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My Scary Labor & Delivery Story | LYLAS VIDEO!

My labor & delivery of my first baby was a breeze! I labored for 6 hours, pushed for 45 minutes and had an epidural less than half way through! Pretty much a pregnant woman’s dream, or at least it was for me! So naturally, I assumed my second baby’s labor & delivery would be somewhat similar. Well boy oh boy was I wrong! Apparently Lorenzo had other plans in mind; like trying to make his grand entrance into the world in the Hospital lobby. True story.

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Tips for Battling the Baby Blues

So you’ve just had a baby – Congratulations! Everyone is over the moon excited for you and you are too! This life you have created and grown inside of you the last 40 weeks is finally here, and you’re mesmerized. It’s all new and exhilarating and magical… until a couple of days after bringing baby home and suddenly, it’s not.

It seems like all at once the reality of a newborn and outrageous hormones hit you like a freight train. You’re overwhelmed, sleep deprived, scared, stressed, and in most cases, CLUELESS of what is going on; not only with baby, but with you as well. You’re bursting into tears for irrational things, you’re finding yourself growing angry at the smallest of issues, and you’re wondering what the hell you were thinking bringing this baby into the world with such a crazy mother. Well sister, welcome to the Baby Blues.

Let me be the first to tell you, and I want you to really understand this; YOU ARE NOT ALONE. I feel like the baby blues and postpartum depression are some of the BIGGEST kept secrets about becoming a new mom. You very rarely hear a woman talk about how down and dark she felt after having her baby. Is it because society paints this unrealistic picture of what having a newborn should be like? With all the perfectly posed photos and all the advertisements of a mom rocking her peacefully sleeping baby at night? Whatever it is, open discussions about baby blues is such a taboo in our culture; which makes moms who are battling it feel even more alone.

I had absolutely no idea that managing and working through my baby blues would be so incredibly hard with my first baby, Ellie. With Enzo being my second baby however, I was able to handle them much better this time – mainly because I made a conscious effort to recognize and communicate what I was experiencing. So naturally I wanted to share what helped me the most, so that I may be able to help another mother that is struggling like I did.oh baby banner jpg

TIPS FOR BATTLING THE BABY BLUES

Recognition

The first thing that helped so much with my baby blues was admitting that I was experiencing them! With my first baby, I was convinced that I had turned crazy. That there was surely something wrong with me, because who cries over having to wash bottles for the third time today? I had heard how much a baby can change a woman, and I was scared that I was going to be a mess of a person forever. With baby number two however, I would still burst into tears for the smallest of things (like when my toddler refused to give me a hug), except this time I knew it wasn’t me acting psychotic, it was the hormones. Once I accepted the fact that I was going through the baby blues, it made it so much easier to allow myself to be emotional while also knowing that this too will pass.

Communication

The next GREATLY important tip that saved me from crying myself to sleep at night was communication. If I was feeling sad, I would say it. I wasn’t trying to hide my erratic emotions from anyone, and that helped me so much. I am incredibly lucky to have the friends, family, and Fiancé that I have. I texted Krystal at all hours of the night just to articulate and talk through what I was feeling. And after every conversation with her, I felt better. I had family members ask me what I needed help with, and when I shared that meals were becoming overwhelming for me to prepare, serve, and clean up, guess what happened? They brought me dinner. When I cried on my Fiancé’s shoulder one night and told him I was feeling all alone, he came to the baby’s room after putting our toddler to bed to cuddle with me as I fed Enzo to sleep. The moral to all of these instances is that if you communicate with the people around you about what you’re feeling, they will respond with exactly what you need at that moment.

It is Not Happiness All The Time

Lastly, and I don’t think enough women truly understand this one, but having a newborn is one of the hardest things you will ever experience, both physically and mentally. There isn’t much to be excited about when all they do is scream at you when they are hungry. Or wet. Or hot. Or cold. Or tired. Or, …you get the idea. And it is OKAY for you not to be happy about all of this. I felt so guilty about feeling unhappy with my first baby that I would tell myself how terrible of a mother I was. I mean, why didn’t I feel rainbows and butterflies every time I looked at her little face like all the other moms said they felt all over social media. Oh that’s right, because social media is only the highlights of that mother’s day. She isn’t posting a crying rant at 3 am when their baby is refusing to go back to sleep. She isn’t posting a video of her baby hysterically crying any time she gets put in a car seat. And she isn’t posting a picture of herself with hair that hasn’t been washed in days and clothes that have baby fluids all over them. Once I started to IGNORE the lie social media portrays of motherhood, I stopped being so guilty about how I was feeling. It’s not only okay to not be jumping for joy during this time period, it’s actually normal!

So relax, new Mama. Remind yourself that you are doing the best you can and rest assure that this time will pass and it will get better. You are a warrior now. You are a mother.

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I truly thank every friend who checked in on me and every family member who took the time to give me a call or bring me a meal. But most importantly I thank my Fiancé, who has not only catered to my every need these last two weeks, but also exemplified what an amazing father he is to our children each and every day.

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IT Cosmetics CC Cream First Impression | LYLAS Video

From bloggers to celebrities, I’ve seen this guy ALL over the internet lately – so, I just HAD to try it! Hopefully, you’re just as curious as I was, and if so, head on over to our LYLAS YouTube channel to see just how I felt about trying this highly reviewed, full-coverage CC cream for the first time:

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Happily Ever After isn’t One Size Fits All

I met Nick, my now husband, when I was 18 years old. Since then we’ve built a wonderful life together and I’m grateful for every second of it. Most people dream of meeting their soulmate at a young age, settling down, starting their career, and creating a family. I mean, as a girl who grew up in the 90’s, that was all I’ve ever wanted. In a quick summary, my love story and adult life may seem ‘perfect’ – but to me, I never thought so.
When I was planning my wedding, most of my friends were traveling. I’ve spent many nights awkwardly accompanying my single girlfriends on a girls’ night out feeling like I belonged anywhere but at the dive bar in six inch heels sipping on a rail vodka-soda. I often bite my tongue when other girls talk about their college dating experiences or when someone shares an anti-young marriage article on social media. From my eyes, I’ve always been a sore thumb in my friendship circles.
My point: the grass isn’t always greener on the other side.

There is no one size fits all happy ending no matter how many times Disney has tried to tell us there is.

If you want to be single and travel the world – do it. If you want to start your family at a young age – DO IT. I absolutely hate seeing other women shame each other on social media for picking a different path in life.
Even now, as a married 27-year-old with two babies, my list of mom friends is almost as short as the amount of times I’ve washed my hair this week. But, I’M HAPPY.  My career may not be where I’d thought it would be but I’m sure there’s someone out there who’s hoping to find her soulmate.
Life’s a lot better when you create your happiness. Comparison truly is the thief of joy. Choose to embrace diversity, uplift others, and support the different decisions they choose to make.
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Simply Straight Hairbrush Straightener First Impression VIDEO!

A few weeks ago I wrote a blog post about my first time trying the Simply Straight Hairbrush Straightener. Well, when gathering the research to write that post, we also filmed it! Watch my first impression below, and look out for a guest appearance from Miss Sassy Pants, Elliana!

Oh, the bloopers at the end are pretty funny too.

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