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Having Two Under Two | LYLAS Video

In less than a month we will no longer have two under two! Feels like yesterday I was laying in bed, 9 months pregnant, snuggling my 15 month old, and slightly panicking about what was in store for us as a family of four. The journey wasn’t easy but as the girls grow, and their bond forms, I am constantly reminded of how valuable these past two years have been.

Curious of some of the challenges we faced and what our two under two experience was like? Click on the video below!

 

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My Current Mommy Must-Haves + New LYLAS Video!

My mommy essentials are constantly changing with seasons, development stages, and every other thing life throws at us! I’m also in a small state of disbelief that in just two months, we’ll no longer have two girls under two years old! But, do I really thinking having a terrible two-er and an almost one-year-old will be any easier? Yes and no – but I’ll save my reasons why for a different post. 😉

Currently, Giuliana, my oldest, is just about 22 months old and Isabel, our baby, is close to 7 months. Life these days is full of hair pulling, peek-a-boo, DROOL, many meal times, and LOTS of loads of laundry. I put together a list of my current mommy must-haves that help me get through each day and also some beauty products that I’m absolutely loving!

To see the entire list and hear why I chose each item, head on over to our new YouTube channel: LYLAS!  or watch below!

Products Mentioned:

  1. Lily Jade Diaper Bag in the style: Madeline Camel & Jade
  2. Replay Recycled Snack Containers
  3. Comotomo Teether
  4. Nuby Teether
  5. Carter’s Teething Bibs
  6. Crayola Bath Crayons
  7. Maybelline Falsies Mascara
  8. Touch in Sol Metallist Liquid Foil & Glitter Eye Shadow Duo
  9. Living Proof Curl Defining Styling Cream

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What are some of your current go-to’s?

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The Dark Sides Of Owning Your Own Business

People assume all too often that owning a business is better than working for a business. That if you own the business, you must be living a pretty lavish and carefree life. And while, for someone like Bill Gates, I’m sure that is true! But what about the much smaller, just starting out businesses? The ones where the owners have not only invested everything they have into this concept, but they are also working themselves to the bone to ensure its success. Well, I’m here to tell you people – it is not all money bags and tropical vacations when owning your own business.

Hours

First, let’s talk the amount of hours you work. An employee of a business works an average of 40 hours a week, typically something like 8 to 5 give or take. And once that clock strikes 5, they are clocked out both mentally and physically until the next work day; which is always known ahead of time due to their set schedule. Yeah, well, not so much for the owner(s). Add about 20 to 30 hours onto that work week and you’re at a more realistic number of hours physically worked at the business. And even when they “clock out”, checking out mentally never really happens. Because they are constantly dealing with the back end of the business even when they go home at night: How were today’s numbers? Did they meet our goals? Are we staying within our projected budget? Did I remember to sign and mail out that form? The list goes on and on. And that set schedule the employee has, the owner has it too. Except theirs is Monday through Sunday, 24 hours a day – no sick days and no guaranteed weekends off.

Pay

Second on the list – pay. A HUGE misconception is that all business owners are just rolling in the cash. Again, while this may be true for some, it is not the case for all. It usually takes a business a couple of years to become really profitable. You have overhead expenses, payroll expenses, loan payments, etc. that all come first. Sometimes, even before your own paycheck. Claudio and I have never let an employee of ours go unpaid. Ourselves however? Numerous times. We are not guaranteed a paycheck every week, like an employee. Nor do we expect one. If the business had an unusually slow week, it just isn’t logical to take a personal paycheck. The success of the business as a whole always comes first.

Family Time

Lastly, I want to discuss just how much family time a business owner misses out on. I have watched my fiancé sacrifice so much during our business adventures, but the biggest one is definitely family time. He has missed out on family birthdays, holiday gatherings, and just the good-ole weekend hang-outs countless of times. Because as I stated before, there is no guaranteed time off. We firmly believe that in order to keep good people working for you, you have to be good to them in return. That means allowing them to have holidays like Christmas Eve off to spend with their loved ones. But in order to do that, who works the business? The owner, that’s who. My fiancé has come home so exhausted that he barely makes it to the bed before passing out; and then he wakes up before anyone else in the house to go do it all over again. And while it can be both frustrating and saddening to miss out on so much time with our family, I am constantly reminding myself that the hard work we are putting in now will reap great benefits in our family’s future.

I don’t want to make owning a business sound completely negative however; it has its great perks too! Like being able to say you are your own boss. Or that you started something completely on your own, and it’s becoming successful! Or, my personal favorite, you are going to look back on all the blood, sweat, and tears one day and feel an overwhelming sense of accomplishment for what you have achieved!

Any other business owners out there? I’d love to hear your stories too!

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What’s In My Hospital Bag | Plus Video!

Just like other first time moms, I had no idea what I was doing when it came to most things baby related. This included packing my hospital bag for my labor and delivery stay. When I tell you I packed enough for a small vacation, your girl ain’t lying! I had to dig through all the extra crap I packed in my family sized suitcase, I mean, bag, just to get to what I really needed; the basic essentials! So using my first mistakes as lessons learned, I now feel like I have exactly what I need in my hospital bag for my 2nd attempt at being a new mommy.

Hospital Bag – For Baby

While in the hospital, baby really isn’t going to need much, besides all the newborn snuggles in the world of course! If your hospital is anything like mine, they provide you with almost everything you need: diapers, wipes, formula, pacifier, blankets, etc.. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t still bring them a few things. I packed two cute swaddle blankets that have a matching hat to wrap baby boy in for his grand announcement photo. (Not that this is necessary, but c’mon, I’m a blogger and have been planning out this picture for weeks now!) I also threw in 3 different footed pj’s in new born size with THE CUTEST prints on them. Although, I know baby will be swaddled the majority of our hospital stay. And I’ll just pick from one of those for his going home outfit!

Hospital Bag – For Mommy

As far as items for momma bear, I tried to pack just the essentials. Well, for the most part anyway. I did throw in some nail polish and basic makeup items, which some may not consider to be an essential right after giving birth, but I am hoping to not look so much like a mommy monster this time around!

Cosmetics

  • Toothbrush & Paste.
  • Shampoo & Conditioner & Body Wash.
  • Body Lotion & Face Lotion.
  • Chapstick! (Extremely important girlfriend!).
  • Hairbrush & Hair Ties/Head Bands & Hair Spray.
  • Deodorant.
  • Prenatal Vitamins (You’re going to want to keep taking these even after you give birth!).
  • Makeup & Nail Polish – I’m a dreamer, okay? 😉

Clothes

  • Going home outfit – take your biggest and most comfortable maxi dress. Trust me on this one.
  • 2 outfits – loose fitting and comfortable. I have roll over yoga shorts that I will keep unrolled up&over my belly, and loose fitting high-waisted capri pants. Both paired with a baggy t-shirt provided by my Fiancé’s side of the closet.
  • Adjustable sports bras. (You’re going to be swollen).
  • Large, unattractive underwear. (If you don’t want to wear the mommy diapers the hospital will provide).
  • Socks.

Snacks

  • Pop-Tarts
  • Special K Bars
  • Fruit Gummies
  • Pretty much anything you typically like to snack on. You know, for when you’re waiting on baby daddy to bring you your gourmet take out!

For your viewing pleasure, I have also filmed all of this exciting information for you and posted it on our YouTube Channel. Yay! You can watch that below <3

Because we have Ellie, our 2 1/2 year old, daddy will be staying at home with her during the nights of my hospital stay. Therefore, he gets nothing in my hospital bag! Ha. I am so excited to bring this baby boy into our lives, and can’t wait to share him with you all! Stay tuned.

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Pick Two: Strong and Kind

If you could pick two qualities for your children to possess, what would they be? The question seems like an easy one because most of us can name dozens of favorable qualities we’d like for our children to have, but the the catch is, you can only pick two

Would you pick qualities that give them a better chance of succeeding in the work place? Or how about ones that help them build strong relationships, friendships, and bonds?

When I first became a mom, the newborn days felt as if they lasted an eternity. My nights and days were so long and I filled a lot of my time with self help books and memoirs. One of my favorites was ‘Strong and Kind’ by Korie Robertson. It’s a book about her experiences as a parent, her stories, her battles, and most importantly, her realization that if you want your children to be good people, the best way to teach them is to show them. Pretty self explanatory, huh? Yeah, I thought so too. But Korie really opened my eyes to things I do that may not be teaching our girls the values we want them to exemplify.

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1. STRONG

When I think of the word strong, I think about the sports the girls will try, the criticism they will face, and as good as it is to win, the worse it feels to lose. I think about them coping with losing someone they love, experiencing heartbreak, and facing  challenges as they mature. Right now, Nick and I are here to help them develop but as quickly as these first two years have passed, I’m reminded that we won’t always be able to fix every problem they encounter.

This is why being strong is so important. I want them to be strong enough to say no when they want to and to stand alone if they have to. I want them to be strong enough to carve their own paths and create their own happiness. I want them to be physically strong, mentally strong, and most importantly, faithfully strong – and they need us to live those truths and show them. 

2. KIND

To be kind is to be of a good or benevolent nature or disposition, as a person. As strong as I want the girls to be, I want them to be equally compassionate, selfless, and kind. The best sense of fulfillment comes from acts of love.

Here’s where a few (or all) may disagree: I don’t think you have to take away toys/material things to teach kindness or selflessness. Will my children have everything? No. But, they will treat a janitor with the same respect as they treat a CEO. How? Because they will see that money and ‘things’ are fleeting.

As parents, it’s our duty to embody kindness with patience, gratitude, balance, honesty, compassion, loyalty, and humility. Whew, that’s a lot! But it’s amazing that those attributes can all be wrapped up in one word: kind. I don’t think the girls could truly live a fulfilling life without being kind.

I’d love to give my girls the world, but we cant. However, by modeling positive traits, with confidence, consistency, and unity in truth and love, we can increase the chances of our kids catching on to positive, life altering traits. 

I highly recommend ‘Strong and Kind’. I find myself revisiting highlighted sections and rereading chapters for comfort and guidance. 

Would you pick different qualities for your children? I’d love to know! 

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